by: Pastor Shana Wise
(from The Well Christian Women's Network discussion in April 2020)
I have been in the body of Christ for decades, and one issue that we can all work on is the way we communicate with each other.
I have seen relationships broken, covenants shattered, alliances broken, and feelings hurt due to poor or no communication and misunderstandings.
Women, especially, have hard times in relation to other women due to various issues such as comparison, competing with one another, jealousy, and envy to name a few. Yet, the main reason I see women "fallout" or not get along well with each other is a breakdown in communication.
The bible gives many scriptures as it relates to our conduct/communication with one another. We as believers must conduct ourselves as children of God. We need to set an example for nonbelievers on how to communicate with one another in a way that pleases God.
Here are a few scriptures and points of discussion in relation to them.
Mat. 5:23-24, Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
Mat. 18:15-17, (dealing with someone in a sin) “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.
John 13:34-35, A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
Other relating scriptures: Mat. 18:21-22, Col. 3:13, James 5:9, Eph. 4:31-32. Gal. 5:14, Mat. 18:4
Five Points of Discussion
1. Use more discernment and less flesh (when it comes to our responses).
2. Overcome the fear of confrontation.
3. It’s not always about being right, it’s about making it work.
4. Respect and understand others' viewpoints. Agree to disagree. Celebrate each other’s differences.
5. Let love rule over feelings and emotions.
What is your thoughts and feedback on this topic? Please leave your comments.
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About the author:
Dr. Shana Wise is an ordained Pastor and CEO of Wise Choice Ministries (est. 2016). She is the founder of The Well Christian Women’s Network formally known as Christian Women Preachers United. Dr. Wise is the author of women’s devotional, Acts of Intercession, and The Impact of Your Election. She received a doctor of divinity degree in 2019 from St. Thomas Christian University. Her passion is to teach and preach the gospel of Jesus Christ, equip others to apply the Word to their lives, and demonstrate the Word through the power of the Holy Spirit. She is a televangelist that appears on social media outlets and television. Shana is married to Ron Wise and is the mother of four children.